After we add each other in Skype, and set up time of session. I will give you a call and you describe briefly Situation / topic that bothers you, then I ask you questions and together we will try to understand what is happening and look for a solution that suits you the best. Usually the situation has been developing for some time, so you need to be patient. Finding a solution will take some time.
I’m not doctor or some sort of guru who gives advice and prescribes treatment, I'd rather be an equal partner who walks beside you and helps you choose the right strategy to achieve results using certain techniques and strategies.
Payment is an integral part of the process
The fees should suit consultant
The fees must be very sensitive to the client (otherwise work will be unconsciously depreciated)
The fees shall not ruin the client’s budget (otherwise the client in the process will focus not on the content of consultation, but on the fact of what he and the family have to starve)
Number of sessions depends on
More in detail we can talk about it at the end of the initial consultation. Read article “How to determine the number of sessions"
It is best to start with what brought you to the consultation: describe the problem, its brief history, and the desired result. Next, I'm probably going to ask you the questions, and you have the right to be as open as you feel comfortable. Do don’t have to answer every question. Set up an appointment
This is great advantage of session via Skype and Viber - it is possible to communicate virtually any time (by mutual agreement).
I’m a looser if I can’t manage my problem myself. Therapy is for mentally sick only. Actually I work ONLY with healthy people. Person does not have to struggle with problems by himself – experts are there to help. After all, we're not ashamed to go to the dentist with a toothache? Why are ashamed to go to a psychologist with pain in your soul?
Myth that psychologist can harm the psyche (like a surgeon with a scalpel) and seriously damage the human personality - in fact people can change only if they agree to change and want to change, a psychologist cannot do anything to bypass consciousness of the client
Myth that psychotherapy is a waste the money since psychotherapists can’t change you. Changes depend entirely on you - a psychologist may help you see the path of changes, the cause of your problems, but the steps to change the situation is entirely in your hands.
Psychotherapy or counseling can be painful. In fact, anxiety and its energy is needed to overcome the psychological problems/
Psychotherapist has a "magic pill". None can guarantee the success of consultation. There are no «magic» tips or “pills”. Changes need time, and often a worsening of symptoms and pain - this is the price that could be paid to change for the better.
"Why do you want to go to a psychologist? May be it’ll go away over time? I’m not crazy to go to psychotherapist!
"I am satisfied with my life , we don’t quarrel very often, and work more or less well together, we have plenty of food to eat, go to vacations, children dressed and fed, but sometimes it hurts to have the feeling that life is mundane and uninteresting. Life is static, no apparent problems. If I go to a psychologist, "What do I tell him? That everything is fine? "
Usually people say, don’t repair if it’s not broken. When you will be on the verge of divorce – then you might want to use psychologist, In the meantime, do not waste your money. Don’t you have friends to talk to? ".
Do you go to the dentist when a tooth is completely destroyed and has to be taken out, of when you see the first signs of tooth decay and browning on enamel? Why not say to ourselves, "maybe it will go away by itself?", "Maybe it's not so bad?" - Because we know that delay can be very expensive.
A psychologist is specialist to whom it is easier to prevent a problem than to liberate you from its emotional consequences. A psychologist is often perceived as the person taking the money for sincere conversation and renting out their ears.
If I cannot solve the problem myself, I'm a loser and completely crazy – this is how some people think. You don’t consider yourself a loser if you can’t treat your teeth, right?
This philosophy would have seemed ridiculous: you can’t hire a psychologist at the slightest changes that bother you, even when easy disorder or dissatisfaction in life is present. Why be ashamed of the mental health? All the problems - in our minds, and how we live, depends entirely on what we think.
Probably one should not delay consultation with a psychologist in the hope that life will change by itself.
Of course it’s up to you. Nobody knows better than you what the best strategy for your life is. But if we are cleaning house on the weekly basis, it will not hurt to put things in order in your head, in your thoughts, emotions and feelings from time to time. Psychotherapy has potential to make your life more equipped, comfortable and happy and balanced.