If you cannot change the situation, first change your attitude towards it.

The already adult daughter came to her elderly father for advice, in despair that her life is not turning out the way she would like it to. Dad, I just can’t anymore, troubles have piled up, it seems that I can’t get out of them anywhere, the feeling that I am constantly fighting a strong current and it is constantly carrying me away, I am not moving forward, and my strength is already running out...< /p>

Father looked at her carefully and said: Let's go to the kitchen.
In the kitchen, he put three pots on the stove, poured water into them and lit a fire.
Then he silently put carrots in one pan, eggs in another, and coffee beans in the third.

After 10 minutes after the water boiled, he turned off the gas and asked his daughter. Sunny, look in the pots now, what happened now? She looked inside the pans and said the coffee was brewed, the eggs were hard-boiled and the carrots were already soft. You're right, but let's look deeper. The initially hard carrot became soft, the egg, on the contrary, became hard, and the coffee colored the water in a different color.
If you didn't know that they were fighting, it would be difficult for you to see the difference from the outside. Outwardly, they remained the same. But something happened inside. Although the circumstances were the same, they reacted to them differently. The same thing happens with people, those who are outwardly strong can become weak and weak, and the weak and soft in appearance, on the contrary, become strong and strong. And coffee beans? How does this apply to them? said the daughter thoughtfully, "But coffee is the most interesting thing." It dissolves in aggressive water and changes its color and taste. Boiling water makes wonderful invigorating coffee. Individuals influence what surrounds them and transform the surrounding difficulties, turning everything to their advantage and bringing out new experiences and wonderful lessons.
The meaning of what I showed you is simple: change yourself if your circumstances do not change.