9 pitfalls on the path to happiness

To avoid the traps that we set for ourselves and understand our “mind games.”

1. Some people think that if they work less, their happiness will immediately increase.

This is a typical misconception based on the assumption that a life full of entertainment makes a person happy. In fact, it is the lack of work that drives a person into depression and boredom. We were born to create and do what we love, improve and solve problems. This is what makes our life fulfilling and happy. Put your hands and heart into some activity that is meaningful to you - and you will immediately see how the feeling of satisfaction with life and happiness will increase.

2. It's not about me - others are to blame!

We try to force ourselves to believe that the cause of our unhappiness is other people - our family, friends, colleagues. We are ready to shift responsibility for our lives to anyone with joy. In fact, when we take responsibility for our lives into our own hands, we gain true control over our lives and relieve the stress that has been robbing us of happiness.

3. It seems to us that happiness is some kind of secret that must be found.

In fact, there are no secrets to happiness. It is not located somewhere outside of us.. You yourself are the forge of your own happiness and this forge is inside you. Live your life, develop and move forward - happiness is not the final destination - it is a process.

4. I'll be happy if I buy this.

The joy of possessing material goods is very fleeting. And although it’s not bad to want to make your life beautiful and comfortable, you need to understand that “wish lists” never go away. No matter how much you fulfill your desires, this bottomless barrel will never be filled. Every time new and new “wants” will appear. Focus on the internal, not the external!

5. “Everything suits me.”

It sounds very wise, but in fact it disguises the fear of change. We live  in a world in which nothing is stable. Everything grows and everything changes – it’s inevitable.  Stagnation and lack of movement are the cause of not only physical illnesses, but also internal ones. We are created to strive for more. Resistance to the changing world around us is destructive. You need to accept this reality and move with the flow of changes, adapting to it. Acceptance of new things is also one of the important factors of happiness.

6. "It's now or never."

Don't let yourself cling to rigid attitudes. Hard - breaks. Flexible - more durable. Tactical retreats do not mean strategic defeat. Don't think ahead. Never is a very long time. Live one day at a time - there is enough happiness in it for you. Take just one step towards your dream every day - that's enough.

7. I need to know exactly what to do - only then will I begin to act.

In fact, thoughts are often our enemies. The more we hesitate and reflect, the more we come to a dead end. Often this is simply a psychological cover for our fears and reluctance to act. Start taking action, remove doubts. Even if you make a mistake, it is easier to turn around a moving train than one that is standing on the rails. Only those who do nothing make no mistakes.

8. You can't do this, but...

We try to deceive ourselves, especially when we really want something. Bad habits  which we clearly justify can stand in the way of our happiness. A weight hanging from your leg cannot make your journey easier. Health problems have never made you happier. Take care of yourself, take care of your body.

9. Happiness is only for those who are lucky.

We easily believe in fairy tales that we are puppets controlled by blind fate. With such an attitude towards life, it is difficult to expect anything good from it. Often our fantasies about the luck of others  - just fantasies, because we do not see the enormous work, both internal and external, that a person has done, but which we do not see. If everything is in order in your inner world. If you got rid of internal cockroaches or at least forced them not to bother you, then change and happiness will not take long to arrive. Believe in yourself and your dream - this way you will bring it closer much sooner than it seems to your lack of faith.

As you can see, a lack of awareness of what we think can lead to dire consequences - in relationships and in professional activities.

Of course, this is not a complete list of the “mind games” that people usually play. Your own games are usually less obvious than others'. To “get to the bottom” of your games and your traps and see them, it is useful to seek help from a psychotherapist. 

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