Do you need to express your feelings or  Is it better to keep everything to yourself? Share this article with your friends or save it to read later. We keep in the recesses of our souls for many years, we put into a dark closet everything that hurts, everything we don’t want to think about, until this closet grows so much that it occupies most of our inner world, leaving no room for our personality.< /p>

That is why it is so important to remove this rotting trash from deep closets to the outside, so that the putrid smell does not spoil the quality of our life and we gain greater inner freedom. This is actually what a psychotherapist helps to do.

It is usually believed that a psychotherapist is someone who listens. But in fact, inthe profession of a psychotherapist it is important not only to listen, but also to help the client express himself, so that he learns to describe what is happening.

What might the smell of coffee be like, for example? – bright, warm, quiet. sharp, spicy, joyful, exciting, sad. The better you describe what is happening, the higher the level of awareness and, consequently, the release of internal processes.  When a person does not express himself, he seems to wall up his feelings under a thick layer of prohibitions and fears.

Expressing oneself is a characteristic of adults. It is difficult for a baby to express himself and parents often wonder whether the baby wants to eat, is teething or wants to go to the toilet. He has only one way of expressing himself – crying. Only experienced parents can understand by his intensity and intonation what exactly is needed and help him in his suffering. 

The child behaves naturally, he does not reflect like adults. If he feels bad, he cries. Adults often, having a language and a huge set of tools for expressing their experiences and feelings, not only do not cry, but do not even speak.

But long silence can be very dangerous.

If people don't express what they think in a relationship, the relationship won't last long. Speculation and lack of feedback will do their job - ultimately destroy the relationship. You've probably seen from your friends how jealousy and suspicion destroy relationships.

But this is not the only evil of silence. Speaking out loud is a way of processing feelings and the energy they contain. The stronger the emotions, the more energy they contain. If we suppress grief, anger, joy and love in ourselves, so as not to expose ourselves to the risk of being misunderstood, then the energy of these emotions accumulates inside us and feeds various painful processes in the body until one day it turns into some dangerous psychosomatic phase (ulcer or cancer ).

You can imagine feelings like a stream of water. If the water overflows and there is no way out, it creates pressure inside, which is expressed in depression, fears, and illness. And when it breaks out under pressure, this seething flow often destroys relationships with family and friends and creates problems at work.

When we speak out our experiences, it is as if we are giving an outlet to this water, preventing it from creating critical pressure inside.

This is exactly where a psychotherapist helps - the person who maintains confidentiality, does not judge and removes all obstacles in the way of water - your experiences. So that the water is running and does not stagnate.  

You can try psychotherapy online. This is a proven effective way to solve psychological problems. The initial consultation of 15 minutes is completely free. Take time for yourself on a regular basis, take care to express and talk through your feelings and situations. After all, the quality of your life depends on this; in the end, it is cheaper than repairing the consequences of an uncontrolled explosion of feelings that destroys not only your life, but also the lives of your loved ones.

Take action and you will succeed!