If you don't do anything about something you really don't like, it means you actually like it, and you get some secondary benefits from this situation.

What are secondary benefits? For example, you don’t want to change your lifestyle, but you go around telling everyone you know about how bad your life is, thus getting attention from them (if they don’t give you positive support and pity, then you’ll be fine with a negative reaction).

After all, even the absence of a decision is also a decision, just as not wanting to choose is a choice.

There is no point in complaining about circumstances. I am not a tree, I have legs - if I don’t like something, I can move to another place and circumstances that I like. And you too.

If you don’t like the salary, there is no point in complaining that they pay little - find a job that will pay more or don’t work. This principle can be applied to almost all areas of life.  If you don’t like living with someone, don’t live with him. If you don’t like how you treat yourself, change your environment. If you don't like the clothes, don't wear them. If you can’t sleep, figure out what’s preventing you from sleeping. If you are sick, get treatment. If you don't like the country, move to another.

Well, or be honest with yourself that while you are doing nothing, the secondary benefit you get is more discomfort. It’s nice to complain, suffer and be a victim because they sympathize with you, solve problems for you, and help you. This is a child’s position, when a helpless child everyone tries to help him, but for an adult this is strange.

If you declare that life is g...o, but do nothing, then you like living in g... It's your choice, your decision, even if you do nothing didn’t choose or decide anything, and didn’t do anything about it at all.

The most important thing is to stop dragging others into your game, with your complaints and lamentations, no one is obliged to play your games. 

The first step to recovery begins with admitting the truth. This is the law for any addicted people and for all patients. It is very difficult to treat a person who does not consider himself sick.

The reality of life is that no one is responsible for your life if you are an adult.

And if you want to change, but don’t know where to start or don’t have the mental strength to get out of the swamp you’ve climbed into, you can sign up for a consultation with a psychotherapist online (click on the button below) but take action you will have to anyway. Even the best psychotherapist cannot pull a person out of the swamp of his problems when he desperately resists and says that he has no problems and everything is fine with him.

Take action and you will succeed!